Ugh, I guess this is a common problem with alcoholics, they really are unable to care about others...
I am starting to realize that my AH basically wants to live like a teenager. He says he wants to live back with our family, but any time he is with us and actually has to be responsible he seems miserable. He wants the kids but only on his terms. I kicked him out and he honestly seems much happier living with his parents, not having to work and getting to go to recovery meetings with all his buddies every day. I asked him tonight to think about what he really wants out of life because I don't want him to just come back here thinking he wants this and can handle it and disappointing us again. It would be better for us to divorce than to live like this. I want a grown man for a husband (or no husband at all sounds okay too!).