Do we become overly skeptical?
good question.
I don't think so.
We know A are liars. We know they will do everything they can to continue living the way they have been. Worse..we don't have any kind of lab test or diagnostic tool to say "oh yeah, they've finally hit bottom. Recovery will stick this time"
I think we HAVE to be skeptical in order to cope w/ them whether they are active A's or Recovering A's.
Mine has already lied to me at least twice about major issues we have in our marriage, it really destroyed what little trust we had reestablished. Now i doubt every word out of his mouth.