My AH has a common drunken diatribe: "You're waiting for me to die so you can go marry a [insert any stereotype other than WASP] man."
That actually helped give me the impetus to leave, because I don't want him to die, BUT I know he's its hard live my life with his drinking hanging in the balance. Maybe I was thinking "if I didn't have to put up with..." That very thought seemed disrespectful to him. His taunting was macabre.
So I left, thinking to myself, "No, I don't have to wait for you to die to do anything. I can do what's right for me right now."
Selman, thanks for posting. I think a lot of us recognize the desperation that drives thoughts like yours.