Reddy,
Congrats on 47!
It def sounds like she didn't get it. I don't know how to get through to her without scaring the hell out of her, but the offer of wine speaks volumes. You do need to have that conversation with her, and it may well be that she has history with alcoholism/addiction (strange how we seem to find one another, none of my gf were alcoholics, but all but one had it in their families).
If it's a non-starter for her, the sooner you both know where the other is coming from, the better.