Originally Posted by
courageouscrane 
why is contacting him, letting him know that I do care, such a bad idea?
I think it means that:
1. The consequence of losing you isn't really losing you - you're still 'there', still helping him stopping reaching his bottom. You're not really all that absent if you're still in contact, are you?
2. Contacting him isn't so much bad for him as bad for YOU. No Contact helps you clear your mind of the manipulation, hels you to re focus on you, your needs and your recovery without the drama and distraction an A brings. You're hurt he still chooses alcohol over you. Maintain contact and that hurt will keep on happening every time. Why cause yourself that pain? Stop sticking your hand into the flame and give yourself some time to heal...