IMO, no contact is necessary in order to see the situation more clearly.
No contact is hard because you are breaking a pattern, and change is never easy.
Reading your post, it seems as though you need to look to the man's actions and not his words. Words are nice and all, but actions speak to a man's character.
Try to remember that as painful as this is, no one ever died from being uncomfortable. You can get through this, one day, one hour and one minute at a time, if need be.