Hi Cali, Welcome to SR!!!!
I'm sorry for what brings you here, but you have found a great place with lots of Experience, Strength, and Hope (ES&H).
It sounds as though this man is just not in a good place for a relationship right now. Do you think it's OK for someone who allegedly cares about you to be demeaning and cruel to you? I think you deserve far better than that!!!
Huge hugs!!!! HG