Originally Posted by
elainakay 
I know his life would be better without the weed, but I can not convince him of this and gave up long ago. However, I am concerned about this attitude with the oxy. It alarms me... I wont stay for this. I cant.
I hope you can hold onto that knowledge that you can't put yourself through this. If he does relapse and ruins your relationship, staying together won't help either of you. I'm concerned too... the defensive attitude, secretive behavior and marijuana dependence definitely point toward relapse. I've never taken oxy, but I know it's a very addictive narcotic. He's probably hesitant to go to a doctor for his back pain because if the doctor knows his addiction history, he'll probably be given a non-narcotic pain reliever.