I agree with smacked (as I often do). It might be in both of your interests to kind of cool things off for awhile. Not that you can't see each other or spend time together, but maybe watch it in terms of the emotional intensity for awhile. Recovery is a HUGE commitment of time, energy, and emotion (I have been married to two alcoholics, one of whom has stayed sober for 31 years--he got sober after we had been together about as long as you have, and we got married a year after he got sober. I am also an alcoholic in recovery, myself, now--sober for two and a half years). It's easy to feel left out, to feel like recovery is more important than you are, etc.
I also think Al-Anon is a great idea. In addition, I recommend you educate yourself as much as possible. Go slow. Relationships with alcoholics in recovery can work, and there is no guarantee ANY relationship won't go bad at some point. Only you can decide your own tolerance for risk and whether you want to take the chance.