OOI I was told early on that the suggestions are free the only ones you have to pay for are the ones you dont take..............That said I believe that everyone is different I understand the BB says to try to see how we are the same not how we are different. For me not all the suggestions apply so as they say I take what you need and leave the rest. I have been participating and mostly reading this forum for years in my opinion anyone who comes here and stays for a while progresses in recovery.