Thank you both so much for responding.
Mushroom, you're totally right. I hadn't quite looked at it that way before.
"If he dies alone with no contact from his daughter ... well, he doesn't seem to value you very much, does he?" was dead-on! He is NOT valuing me. I mean, it's just ridiculous. I have to hear about how he never wanted children...how I should have done this, or should have done that...nothing I ever do is good enough, and I'm sick of feeling that way.