I know it's painful. But everyone is dead on with their advice.
I too tend to end up with the wrong men.
I have been with my AH for over ten years and only found this website a few days ago. I am finally waking up to it and now trying to find the safest and quietest way to leave.
And then, after giving up everything to be with this man. I will be starting my life over from scrath at the age of forty.
Did Imention I moved to another country with him? And am surrounded with people who support him and hate me?
My point is, take the advice of the very wise people here.
The pain you are experiencing now is nothing compared to what you will experience if you stay.
As for me the first thing I'm going to do when I get back to the states is find a good therapist! The second is have a huge piece of cheescake!
P.S. I just wanted to add one more thing. These few fights you have recently had with him are just little tests to see how easily he can manipulate you.
And yes, the text breakup/and silent treatment are also forms of manipulation.
Every time we cave to one of their games, we give away a piece of ourselves. And they keep it up until there is nothing left. Then they own you!