What a coincidence, I just got home from one of the best Al-Anon meetings so far, and there were 3 double winners tonight - all new. All dealing with the effects of someone else's drinking. One talked candidly about knowing only the person can seek sobriety for themselves, but this person couldn't make that connection to the loved one in their life. Said it was too hard - that it seemed like there was something, anything they could do to help this person. Another talked candidly about what its like to be an alcoholic and the cognitive dissonance they suffer, how much they hurt knowing they hurt others and seem powerless over that. It was really, very nice (kind of like when they jump over and post in our forum - the perspective is very welcome!)
So don't hesitate to go to Al-Anon. I thanked each one for coming tonight and hope they come back.