PaperDolls, I commend you for going to an Al-anon meeting to continue your growth. I've been attending the same Al-Anon meeting for about 4 years. The "double winners" always announce that fact proudly. At first I didn't know what to think since I have so much resentment and anger toward my AH, but after befriending a few of them and hearing their stories, I love having them in our meetings. They add a different perspective even if they are talking about alcoholics in their lives and other al-anon concerns during the meetings.