I can hear a familiar pattern. My husband has also gotten mad at me for not going out drinking, I am the one who is no fun, I am boring, I need to get a life. Well, I am just fine with my life without getting drunk out of my mind when the chance arises. He won't go to places that don't have beer either. Everything has to revolve around beer for him. He also has complained that I don't spend time with him, but it is only when he has nothing to do. If he has fishing or a snowmobiling trip planned, then he gone not spending any time with me and that is OK. But if I did it it is a different story. They can be so selfish and maybe that's why it bothers us so much. Try not to let yourself be too bothered and was too much of your time thinking about it. Just hope their consequences catch up with them, spend your time on you and things that you like to think about, sorry that you are in a situation that is so frustrating. I know exactly how you feel.
Hugs,
Laurylady