My boundary was that he had to come home at night at a resonable time - 11:00 ish. I have to get up for work at 6:00. Well...........He didnt come home one night. The last conversation we had was that he would be home around 11. I packed his stuff and left it on the back porch. He called me the next day at work around 11:00 am. He said he had been arrested, but he had no papers because it was mistaken idenity and they let him go! Whatever! I told him I was done.
That was soooooooooooooooo hard. But I knew that I had to follow through.
It has been 3 months and he is FULL force into his addiction, living with a prostitute (I NEVER would have thought) He still calls and asks if he can come "home". - uh I think NOT!
It is VERY painful for me. I loved this man with everything I am and at one time he loved me the same.
Be prepared to set boundaries that you can follow through with and make sure they are not an attempt to control the A. DO IT FOR YOU.
Big Hugs
Michelle