Hi Ina, I'm glad to know you are utilizing a therapist as well as AA. I've been looking into a therapist as well, and its really important that she be familiar with the 12 steps. I think everyone needs a 12 step program to deal with life. I'd like for someone to be able to help me use the 12 steps for my alcoholism, and also for me to get through some things from my past. Maybe ask her how the 12 steps can help you deal with the issues you are facing. Bring recovery and life into one issue, and grow spiritually to help you better your life.
Just my opinion.