He KNOWS how I feel about alcoholics (both parents were alcoholics, my mother severely), and yet I think he's become one.
Mimic,
I am a recovering alcoholic, and after reading your first post, I think you know this is a big problem for you.
My father was an abusive alcoholic, I married an abusive man first, then an alcoholic, abusive man in my second marriage.
So, maybe your idea of a bad problem has been skewed by your upbringing?
"Oh, he remembered to put a towel under himself because he pisses himself at night."
Please get help for yourself. When I got sober, and went to AA meetings, I realized how low I had set the bar for my family. Me and my two children.
For a long time, (and maybe even now) I struggle with whether I deserve a good life.
I did not have a problem with whether my kids deserved better or not, just me.
You deserve better, I deserve better, everyone deserves better than what we got as children. You can change how you deal with it though.
Beth