I'd agree that it sounds like he feels you letting go and is trying to pull strings to figure out what will get you to stay. IMO, the insurance statement is a load of quack. If the insurance would cover couples counseling, why wouldn't it cover individual counseling as well? It's not really a two-for-one type of thing. And it's not like they'd say both of you have to go get a root canal because one of you needs it. Bleah.
Glad to hear the apartment side is moving along. Wishing you peace and continued strength.