Welcome to SR. Previous posters have expressed it well. There is so much good information and insights in the stickies at the top.
The thing with addiction is that people follow it. They follow the addition no matter how embarrassing or painful it is, how many people they hurt, how hurt they are, and when it is utterly irrational. People lose spouses, homes, careers, and children - and yet they follow the addiction. God help me to never know what that is like but we must accept it if we are ever to find our own way. They follow that voice in their head until when (and if) some shift happens inside. That shift is an internal thing and nothing we do out here can make it happen.