This brings up an interesting topic - responsibility to others. Where is the line between "letting go" of the alcoholic and being responsible for the welfare of other people?
Let me give an example: My RAH used to drink intoxicated. I even found myself in the car at times. We were breaking the law, putting other innocent strangers at risk. Is it my responsibility to protect the greater good from what I know is an immediate risk? Or do I "let go of the alcoholic" and let them experience their own consequences on their own time frame (instead of imposing mine by calling the police). Where is the line between being controlling and being responsible? Seems so blurry sometimes...