If it's her money, it's her money. If it's yours, it's yours. That said, either way by allowing her access to money you enabled her.
To your daughters, and I have a 15-Year old survivor myself, their physical and emotional safety are your first priority. To take care of them you have to take care of yourself. So, take care of yourself, take care of your daughters, and strongly consider detaching completely from your wife so you can do both. Completely detach. No, ifs, no ands, no buts.
If there is any chance of recovery, at this point she has to find it on her own.
Take what you want and leave the rest.
Cyranoak
By providing my wife money and a car I made it really easy for her to keep drinking. I wish I hadn't. Thank God she didn't kill anybody. Their blood would have been on my hands (like, metaphorically, my daughter's already is).
Take what you want and leave the rest.
Cyranoak