Originally Posted by
Shellcrusher 
I think it's super complex and hard to define. I also think it's subjective. I also have a hard time reading that book because the first several chapters are so "all inclusive."
I'll have to say, I'm having a problem reading the book, because of this, and also because XABF used the book as a weapon to "prove" why I was the one with the problem.
I try to define codependence as someone putting their needs and requirements on the backburner to satisfy someone else's needs and requirements (that the other person can do themselves) or even wants (whether or not the other person can do for themselves), while their needs and requirements go unfulfilled by anybody (including themselves).
I think this sums things up nicely, while removing at least most of the "good" parts of "codependent tendencies". The way codependence is typically defined, I think the whole world would be a wonderful place if everyone had a minor case.