Interesting viewpoint. I think some days its easy to get caught up in the drama given whatever frame of mind I am in at the moment. If I am angry with my A, and I read positive posts (like mine this morning) my first thought is "yeah right go on believin your own BS honey" and then I have to stop myself and think about why I would think something like that. To me, its a reminder to NOT be a codie.
If I feel particularly insightful, I find myself posting advice that probably isn't my place to be giving.
If I feel sad, I can easily emphasize with others' sadness at the situation and wallow right with them.
What I get out of this forum is different perspectives that given my lack of experience, I wouldn't otherwise have the knowledge to be aware of. But I have to be careful not to get so enmeshed in others' stories and advice that I forget I can, in fact, think for myself quite well.