Thanks for all the responses, I still haven't had a chance to go through them all (hopefully tonight)....
Things have calmed down here quite a bit as they always do... I'm going to enjoy the peace until the next storm.
A quick note to those who asked, he's a functional alcoholic and really more of a binger. Once he starts drinking he cannot stop and does not realize how much he's had. But at the same time he can go for a week (or at least that's what I think because I don't know what actually goes on at night) without drinking. Mostly he drinks in secret once I go to bed.