We did our own seperation agreement 50/50 and the divorce was only $400. Sell the house and split it 50/50. Just write it fair. Several lawyers talked to me free. I got a couple of books out of the library on divorce laws for my state. 1 inch of the football field at a time.....but I got out first. Emotional abuse is damaging. They can get nasty so watch the money. My X took all the $ out of our joint acct. and cleaned me out for a brief time. They can get pretty crazy. It will be so much better for your family. It isn't the change that is hard but the resistance to the change.