Originally Posted by
Shevrard 
I hate myself so hard right now...I am so angry at her I let it get under my skin and used it as an excuse to get drunk. I am so mad at myself. I feel really stupid and idiotic and childish myself right now.
I know how you feel. I get really angry too. I also use it as an excuse, not to drink anymore, but to smoke. I also get really mad at myself. And I often feel stupid, idiotic and childish. A therapist taught me that when I am angry, look at who I am angry at, and look beneath the anger for the expectation. Usually, underneath the anger is an expectation that someone did not meet. Then, lower the expectation.
That doesn't mean lower your standards or goals. It just means give yourself a break. Because being angry at yourself and feeling stupid and idiotic, etc just keeps you in it. Expect that there are going to be stressful times and learn from what happened.
Get back up in the saddle and try again. This time just a little bit wiser.