I can identify these:
Ridicule
Distorting what happened in an earlier interaction
Sulking
Using a tone of absolute authority
Interrupting
Not listening, refusing to respond
Turning your grievances around to use against you
Changing the subject to his grievances
Criticism that is harsh, undeserved or frequent
Playing the victim
Smirking, rolling his eyes, contemptuous facial expressions
Yelling, out-shouting
Swearing
Name calling, insults, put downs
And yes it does not have to be an alcoholic. I recall a specific interaction where all these happened and XABF was SOBER. It helps to remind myself of reality when I go there again for the Nth time "but he was wonderful". Hah.
Also something outstanding is that the author is a male... I thought it was a woman.
Very handy to recognize these in the future as well, because I no longer plan to be around anyone abusive (addict or not).