I was talking about this with my therapist earlier today...her first reaction was that it was probably too painful to let close to her heart at the moment. She has plenty of other things that she's working through right now.
lushly, if it helps at all, it was only 3 weeks ago that my AW sounded similar to you. Now she's in a rehab program (her second) that she found for herself. Will it be a new beginning? Who knows. But it's given her at least 30 days of peace, which must be worth something.