Hi and
to SR.
In your shoes I would...
a) go to al-anon, small town be damned. You NEED the support, and it's not like it's your job to protect your AH (alcoholic hubby)'s reputation or shelter him from the consequences of his own actions.
b) protect the family money by not giving him access to your bank account. If he wants to drink himself silly, he can go earn some cash.
I hope you keep coming back here to read and post.