Jarhead, it is probably very difficult for your wife right now as she is very scared and probably dosnt understand. Before I became an addict I had to deal with my father, ex-boyfriends addicts and beleive me, it was ugly and I was petrified. She is also putting both your children first.
Keep up the good work with your 30 days and counting and let time takes its course. Time is what you have right now so use it to your advantage.