Originally Posted by
Ladybug0130 
I haven't felt comfortable speaking at even the few al-anon meetings I have attended because it isn't always clear what is okay to say and what's not okay so I am afraid of breaking some "rule". I think that totally stinks that you were approached like this! If that's the rule, they should make it clear at the beginning of the meeting rather than pull you aside. How is a newbie to know?! Pulling someone aside just makes a person feel bad, no matter how tactfully you tell them they were wrong.
I would suggest finding a friendly meeting.
In my home group, we say "We have a loving interchange, please do not consider it cross talk" and we all talk like friends.
We drink tea, bring some goodies to share and just make it really relaxed.
If you want to share, great. If you want to read, great and if you want to do neither, great also.
You should not feel uncomfortable in any al anon setting.
This group sounds unhealthy