We didn't make it. I know of people that DID make it tho..It is like living alone when you quit drinking..but your spouse is drinking. But we had alot of other problems as well. And the drinking was never a glass of wine with dinner type thing..it was years of both of us being on a mission to get drunk. Then I would want to get sober..and he was hell bent not to. I would end up joining him...he would be resentful that I didn't drink with him. OR it could be that the only way I could stand his drunkeness was to keep up with him. All I know is it turned into a push me pull you type of relationship. Once we split up I got sober. Not before trying to drink myself to death trying to figure out why we tortured each other for twenty five yrs...BUT at least I finally got what I have always wanted..sobriety! Still working on healing alot of leftover stuff..I couldn't even begin to do that while actively drinking. I wish you well!!!