Originally Posted by
HeyImme 
Do you completely ignore the drinking and act as if everything is just fine? Allow them to enjoy the consequences of their drinking without reacting in pity or reveling in it? Quit participating in conversations which try to identify why they are unhappy since we already know why?
What you describe is not Detachment, but sounds like a good start to avoiding your triggers, and not allowing yourself to get hooked. Detachment is separating yourself emotionally from the alcoholic. For me, it began with not reacting. I was too enmeshed with the alcoholic and had to learn to recognize my codependency. Reading Codependent No More helped me a lot. Further on down the road, I had to learn to make myself 100% responsible for my life and my self. I big part of Detachment for me has also been examining my expectations of others and adjusting them downward.