Originally Posted by
nodaybut2day 
But luring a child into having a false sense of security in an irresponsible adult is sadder. By lying for her, you are preventing her from owning up to what she continues to do to herself, to her children and to you, on a daily basis.
You're right of course. Thank you for being so clear in expressing it, too. That's what I really like about this place: Honest views from people who have been there.