Your withdrawal symptoms sound really bad. I strongly suggest detox. Detox is not a horrible place where they lock you away and make you suffer it out. It's a place with medical staff who will make sure you're safe, physically comfortable (sooooo many people die withdrawing from alcohol) and you can leave whenever your'e ready.
As far as finding a doctor, call your local clinics or hospitals and ask around. They don't know your name or who you are so be honest and get some information under your belt. Then, ACT. Weening yourself off might work... but I doubt it. There's a reason you drink as much as you do. You can't stop. One drink just to "stop the shakes" will easily turn into two. You know the drill. It's a slippery slope.
Having "alcoholic" on your medical record isn't much of an issue anymore now that HIPAA laws are getting tougher and tougher. I'm no expert though. I just know it's the least of my worries.