Hi SR. Im Sharon and Im an
Alcoholic here in Baton Rouge, La.
At 51 I am 20 yrs sober living
a happier life with a recovery
program as my foundation to
live by a day at a time without
alcohol as a part of it.
I am a adult child of a mom
who drank and took perscription
drugs growing up and experienced
verbal as well as physical abuse
from her.
From the time I left home
at 19 till I was 30, I drank
for many reasons but mainly
due to the resentments I held
onto because of the harsh
treatment I recieved as a child.
Today I continue to learn how
to put the past behind me and
grow from the pain I endured.
Yesterday I watch an episode
on Oprah about twin girls sexually
abused by family members.
I used the knowledge I heard
from that show and incorperated
it into my own situation.
As you know abuse comes in
all forms but its still comes
down to hurting someone.
In recovery we learn how to
let go of resentments towards
those that hurt us so we become
healthier happier people with
out using drugs or alcohol that
would or could destroy us.
Forgiving those that hurt or
harm us is very hard to do as
many of us know.
I have had to learn to forgive
my mom for the hurt she
caused me because of her
own illness, yet I can't forget.
Im hoping that what I learned
from watching Oprah yesterday
will help me move on further
in my own recovery letting go
of the past.
FORGIVENESS does not mean u
have to accept that person (mom,
father, brother, sister, relatives,
people you know) back into your
life.
You are not condoning what they
did to you nor what you are
saying what they did to u was ok.
Forgiveness is giving up
the hope that the past
could have been any different.
So u dont hold on to wishing you
had a different kind of parent,
mother, father, family...
You let that go and you move
forward with the grace that God
(or your own Higher Power)
has given you from this day on.
I heard the words and I have
typed them here to see yet they
need to sink in to understand
them completely.
If you understand and would
like to comment on them please
feel free to share your thoughts
to help me, urself and others
that have experienced abuse
at some point in their lives.
Thanks SR for being here for
me.
