Hhmm... I'm reading Women Who Love Too Much which has a lot to do with women who marry alcoholics.
It said in their one of the steps to recovering as a spouse is to relinquish control. We all know that. But part of that is to stop giving encouragement or praise, because by giving praise for things you want is a form of manipulation
I had no idea this was true. My AH and I are separated, but still living together. In an effort to "help" him I've begun praising him for anything I can find. He always complained that I didn't give him praise too.
Now this has me wondering if praise/encouragement really is a bad thing?