Interesting, when you said that your AH has put his writing before his sobriety.
My rabf and I have talked about this, and he has learned in the rooms of AA that anything you put before your sobriety, you will lose.
Something too about not letting the gifts that come from your sobriety become more important than your sobriety.
Even those with 20+ years of sobriety attend meetings, do step study, realizing that they are always 1 drink away from losing all they have gained in sobriety and recovery from the disease of alcoholism. Recovery never ends, and those who let their guard down, or become complacent about their program of recovery, are at a much greater risk of relapse.
Take care of you. I read Courage to Change every day, I read Codependent No More repeatedly ( I highlighted it, and go over those parts ), I see my therapist regularly, and I read and post here almost every day. All of this is working for me no matter what my boyfriend is doing.