Shellcrusher, I think I am moving forward from that phase, but its taken a while to get here. I've read a lot of stories written by alcoholics recently. Trying to gain some perspective and insight from the source. It has really helped me to understand that compassion doesn't mean tolerance of bad behavior. I can still stand firm on my boundaries and have compassion at the same time. And the anger is pointless and wasted energy. Doesn't mean I still don't get justifiably angry somedays...just that I deal with it differently now. I can send you a list, if you are into reading. Just let me know!