You need to try a few meetings to find one you like. I was lucky, my first meeting became my home group.
We have a "loving interchange" where we share and accept advice but we don't consider it cross-talk.
But there are times, when just reading and listening is healing as well.
The real key to healing is to take the focus on him and put it on you. And I know that's really hard. But it's the ONLY way to find peace