Thank you for your thoughts, Lexiecat. Just like with alcoholism, I did not cause it, I cannot control it and I cannot cure it. But I am afraid of this diagnosis. I am trying to hide that fear from him, trying to talk to the right people, read the right books.. "empower myself" to be strong for what's ahead. In doing that, I think I am allowing my fear to control me.
I want him to surround himself with people who care about him and who can help him. I fully support his involvement in AA and time with his sponsor. I want him to know that I am on his side. I keep telling myself I cannot push.