Hi Jay and welcom,
One thing you will find as I did a lot of good information on this site. One of the first things that was sent to me was the Three "C's"
You didn't Cause her drinking
You cant Control her drinking
You can't Cure her drinking
this has helped me a lot with dealing with my AW problems. You will also find that there are a lot of similarities with other folks. I have been dealing with alcoholism for about 5 years now. My DW has at least a bottle of wine a night, passes out on the couch while the rest of the family is hanging out. She minimizes her consumption and is in denial of her problem...all classic. There are a good group of men on this site (not taking anything away from you ladies) that have been a great source of encouragement. Just take it a day at a time my friend.
grizz