I will soon be celebrating two years - post A.
In the early days, I wrote one email (unsent) asking why. This was before I had the pleasure of my wonderful counsellor and the knowledge that I don't need the A's input to get answers and they were right at my fingertips.
If I were to relay anything to the A now.. it would be.
"For every last excuse you made, for every time I sat broken and in tears, for every harsh word and action, for the myriad of ways you hurt me, for each miserable moment.. I just want to say, you shattered my world into pieces, you taught me some lessons, it made me strong.. Thank you."
Tx