Originally Posted by kilt

ATTORNEY!!! GO TO AN ATTORNEY. HIRE AN ATTORNEY! HIRE A PI!! You and your husband should not be negotiating anything at this point. In the very least you need to be going to couples counseling together, but before you do you MUST SEE AN ATTORNEY!!!! I cannot say this strongly enough. Just because he has the kids it is not at all automatic that you pay any child support. He may have to pay spousal support no matter who has the kids. Thinking that you will have a job and a GOOD paycheck when you graduate is quite a big hope in this economy so any kind of August date is nutty and as drop dead date. Also, you know this living situation is not good for you. YOU NEED TO SPEAK TO AN ATTORNEY!!!! A GOOD ATTORNEY! They will tell you exactly what you need to do to place yourself in the best position to get everything you want in the divorce. You also need to cover your a** in case he is running up bills on joint accts. Get a credit check done on yourself and on him as well. YOU NEED TO SPEAK TO AN ATTORNEY. Don't tell him you are meeting with an attorney. It is none of his business and he doesn't need to know you are loading for bear. This is your life and the lives of your children. From a movie I once saw "You have a divine right to protect your life and lives of your children". You cannot have a clear head now or make good decisions because your jacka** of a husband has stabbed you in the back in exchange for all your loyalty. You may think you are making good decisions, but you are too hurt. ATTORNEY!!!!!! Know your rights or you will get screwed. BTW your husband is a d**k.