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02-05-2011, 11:06 AM

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KittyP

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Join Date: Apr 2010

Location: Dublin, Ireland

Posts: 120

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Originally Posted by LexieCat

AA doesn't require anyone to "pledge allegiance to the Fellowship".

Actually Step 12 and Tradition 1 imply that. The importance of the group is referred to but the importance of fixing your real life is not mentioned at all. Therefore the group is held up as having more importance.

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Originally Posted by LexieCat

Sobriety MUST be the priority or there will be no healthy marriage.

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Originally Posted by Cyranoak

...without sobriety there is no marriage. think about it. there is no anything.

But the AA is just one of many, many, many ways to recover. Many of which have much higher success rates. And repeatedly wide ranging studies have shown that the number one most common factor in recovery is a supportive spouse. Anything that distances people from their real life support systems is more likely to impair than help.