My "tough love" to you--
Pull your own head out of the bottle first. You can't process reality if you are drinking, period, no ifs, ands, or buts. You think you can beat this and trick life to let you process it rationally while drinking anyway? You can't, nobody can.
Secondly, you are an independent person. You may love him, but you are still you, and only you. I don't think anybody is "made" for anybody else. We find people to love and to love us back, but we're still individuals, and we can't process reality if we think we are attached to someone else at the hip, especially if that attachment is unhealthy for all concerned.
You can't control him, convince him, or even manipulate him to stop drinking. He will do as he chooses, regardless of how it affects you.
You have a reality outside of him--a job, friends, family. Take care of your reality, and the rest of what needs to happen in your life will follow.