hi fulloffaith-
in my experience, as time apart increased, i kindof forget how bad it was and then i missed him. i found it helpful to go back to my initial posts here or my notes on how much he drank, lied and spent, to remind myself how trapped and used i felt. honestly, after six months, i had forgotten much of it.
i also found it useful to attend open AA meetings. like TC, it helped me to realize how much worse it probably would have gotten, listening to their stories.
and of course, posting and reading here kept me straight. every single day, someone would write something that i could remember happening or could relate to.
during the period of time it took to re-establish my life, i personally needed to constantly remind myself of tangible reasons why i was leaving my life with him.
oh, also, speaking up to my family and friends provided some much needed support. i was kind of soldiering on, solo, and it took a lot to begin to explain what had transpired.