"A new normal" - good way of putting it, Grizz. My boss and fellow wife of an alcoholic called it "reorganizing my universe". It's very disorienting. I didn't think I had given up very much until I separated from the RAH and it hit me like a ton of bricks how much of a recluse I had become. I wasn't even aware of it - it happened slowly over time.
Now that i recognize my tendencies, I am working toward unburying that woman I used to be. It's difficult and sad sometimes, and strangely exhilarating too. I am remembering now the things I liked to do and the dreams I had for myself once. It just takes time.