I will be celebrating 2 years away from my A soon. I've dated.. kissed a few frogs and all that.. but as I have done that, I've worked on me and the tools to ensure I never get involved with a guy like him again (he was the first and hopefully the last).
Now, I'm in a relationship with a man who IS the antithesis of the A .. in that he is thoughtful, sweet, kind and loving without any agenda and who is able to communicate on a level which I could have only hoped for with my A. I like to think that's because I'm better able to sort the wheat from the chaff and have and attract healthy people.
I too have triggers. But we talk about them and work through them.. together.
I don't know what will become of you and 'new guy'.. but if you're in a place of strength and if you have the tools and information to ensure you are in a 'healthy' place... then it should be ok. It's up to you to be honest with yourself and decide if in fact you are in that place.
Tx